tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4557494819126850462.post498932493748595352..comments2023-10-21T08:46:58.296-07:00Comments on This Life in Writing: you gotta know when to hold emJessicahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10754945048997402612noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4557494819126850462.post-30566597830688565492009-07-10T04:30:13.715-07:002009-07-10T04:30:13.715-07:00Here's the thing, Jase: I'm hardly EVER ri...Here's the thing, Jase: I'm hardly EVER right in my arguments with Jess. Can't I savor my oh so infrequent victories? :)The Husbandnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4557494819126850462.post-35352474918264423882009-07-09T23:20:08.946-07:002009-07-09T23:20:08.946-07:00Jase--that is excellent; so true!Jase--that is excellent; so true!Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10754945048997402612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4557494819126850462.post-35917828290207243612009-07-09T18:45:58.088-07:002009-07-09T18:45:58.088-07:00I'm trying to learn about this myself.
This i...I'm trying to learn about this myself.<br /><br />This is what Dale Carnegie has to say about it in How to Make Friends and Influence people: <br /><br />I was attending a banquet one night given in Sir Ross's honor; and during the dinner, the man sitting next to me told a humorous story which hinged on the quotation "There's a divinity that shapes our ends, rough-hew them how we will."<br /><br />The raconteur mentioned that the quotation was from the Bible. He was wrong. I knew that. I knew it positively. There couldn't be the slightest doubt about it. And so, to get a feeling of importance and display my superiority, I appointed myself as an unsolicited and unwelcome committee of one to correct him. He stuck to his guns. What? From Shakespeare? Impossible! Absurd! That quotation was from the Bible. And he knew it.<br /><br />The storyteller was sitting on my right; and Frank Gammond, an old friend of mine, was seated at my left. Mr. Gammond had devoted years to the study of Shakespeare. So the storyteller and I agreed to submit the question to Mr. Gammond. Mr. Gammond listened, kicked me under the table, and then said: "Dale, you are wrong. The gentleman is right. It is from the Bible."<br /><br />On our way home that night, I said to Mr. Gammond: "Frank, you knew that quotation was from Shakespeare."<br /><br />"Yes, of course," he replied, "Hamlet, Act Give, Scene Two. But we were guests at a festive occasion, my dear Dale. Why prove to a man he is wrong? Is that going to make him like you? Why not let him save his face? He didn't ask for your opinion. He didn't want it. Why argue with him? Always avoid the acute angle." The man who said that taught me a lesson I'll never forget. I not only had made the storyteller uncomfortable, but had put my friend in an embarassing situation. ...<br /><br /><br />You can't win an argument. You can't because if you lose it, you lose it; and if you win it, you lose it. Why? Well, suppose you triumph over the other man and shoot his argument full of holes and prove that he is non compos mentis. Then what? You will feel fine. But what about him? You have made him feel inferior. You have hurt his pride. He will resent your triumph. And --<br /><br />A man convinced against his will<br />Is of the same opinion still.jasonhttp://chasingmist.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4557494819126850462.post-46906722427915976812009-07-09T15:59:19.286-07:002009-07-09T15:59:19.286-07:00Mom--yeah, that is pretty easy to do--but definite...Mom--yeah, that is pretty easy to do--but definitely not helpful in any situation.<br /><br />Emily--I suppose we could each take a lesson from each other and maybe find a balance somewhere in between;-)Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10754945048997402612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4557494819126850462.post-70733955503132449182009-07-09T11:05:48.843-07:002009-07-09T11:05:48.843-07:00Yeah, leaving well enough alone is an exercise in ...Yeah, leaving well enough alone is an exercise in self-control. It's hard not to scratch that itch, or pick at that pimple! I actually am the opposite when it comes to Dan... I avoid the sensitive topics, because I like to keep the peace, but eventually it all comes out, and that has it's own unhealthiness.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15767367335979581217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4557494819126850462.post-56345168569887163822009-07-09T05:16:31.514-07:002009-07-09T05:16:31.514-07:00Interesting blog. I'm teaching on forgiveness ...Interesting blog. I'm teaching on forgiveness this Sunday and one of the problems I see over and over again in marriages is that people (most often women in my experience) just love to talk over and over again the same offenses--what the Bible calls "keeping a record of wrongs."momnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4557494819126850462.post-7028830713845584152009-07-08T23:25:42.559-07:002009-07-08T23:25:42.559-07:00glad to have you on board, Rob!!!glad to have you on board, Rob!!!Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10754945048997402612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4557494819126850462.post-14961062739175819432009-07-08T22:42:27.695-07:002009-07-08T22:42:27.695-07:00seriously any entry that involves kenny rogers... ...seriously any entry that involves kenny rogers... i'm on board.beingawesomehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03445705320347409389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4557494819126850462.post-78001085578228600332009-07-08T20:32:02.813-07:002009-07-08T20:32:02.813-07:00You wanna start something, Copeland???You wanna start something, Copeland???Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10754945048997402612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4557494819126850462.post-35619487700874998602009-07-08T19:47:52.479-07:002009-07-08T19:47:52.479-07:00I agree. You DO do that. I'm not saying I do...I agree. You DO do that. I'm not saying I don't, but you definitely do it more. :)The Husbandnoreply@blogger.com